
If I remember it correctly, it was year 2002 when Jennie, my good friend who is also my blog mentor gave me a very special book entitled Fascinating Womanhood. It’s written by Helen Andelin. I consider it one of my most prized possessions. I believe that a lot of women all over the world have read this book and have their own stories on how the teachings of this book made an impact on their marriages. The book offers guidance for a new generation of women – happy, fulfilled, adored, and cherished – who want to rediscover the magic of their own feminine selves. It offers practical advice and old-fashioned values which I admit are not easy to practice especially when you are in a modern and sophisticated environment.
I want to share with you today, some of the teachings of this book which made a tremendous impact on me as an individual and as well as on my marriage. These are just some of the truths revealed in this book which can make you a fascinating woman in the eyes of your husband. For me, applying these principles require patience and determination and often times I miserably fail, but I keep trying and little by little, I see positive results.
1. Accept your husband at face value and don’t try to change him. Acceptance means to accept him as a human being who is part virtue and part fault, to stop worrying about his faults and look to his better side. The key to acceptance is humility – realizing our own human frailties and limitations and therefore looking to ourselves for change.
2. Love in marriage is the most important element in its success, and a happy marriage the foundation of a successful family. There is no way a man and a woman can create a truly successful home without a happy marriage based on a true and abiding love for each other.
3. When you try to improve your husband, you reveal a serious flaw in your character, the fault of self-righteousness. You indicate that you consider yourself better than he. When you criticize or condemn your husband you take the position of being a judge. But, are you qualified to judge his worth? Are you a better person then he?
4. Get rid of an attitude of bosiness, control, or command, and acquire a spirit of sweet submission. It’s better to surrender your point of view to a man than win an argument. It’s more feminine. When you treat him like a king, he will treat you like a queen!
5. A mark of true character, especially womanly character, is to smile through adversity.
The Real Charm
“There is in this world no function more important than that of being charming – to shed joy around, to cast light upon dark days, to be the golden thread of our destiny, and the very spirit of grace and harmony. Is not this to render a service?”
6. Live Your Feminine Role: Let him make the living, and you make life worth living! Keep the home intact so it is running smoothly, with all daily needs met. Be feminine, cheerful, and do all you can to bring a peaceful spirit in the home. Such an atmosphere will relieve his anxieties and help him succeed as a provider.
What made the book more interesting is that, it teaches women how to deal with heartaches caused by the man they love, how to deal with a hot tempered husband, what to do when your husband is cheating on you or when he is addicted to alcohol and other substances. These things made the book more helpful and balanced. The author is not suggesting that we become submissive in our moral convictions. We should defend them firmly. In my point of view, the book is saying that there is a great possibility for husbands to be SUCCESSFUL when they have FASCINATING wives and both of them will find FULFILLMENT in their marriage.
There’s so much more that you can learn from the book. I’ve seen the price of the book online and it doesn’t cost much. You might want to consider having your own copy. I trust it will bless you as it has blessed so many.